I'm having a hard time finding the perfect balance between me time and mommy time. Mommy time seems to suck up most of my time. I realize that for the next 18+ years it will suck up my time and I just need to accept that.
BUT-I do need some time for myself. I feel like I've got an extra appendage with Josh attached to my breast as often as he nurses. Jake, well, he's two and let's just say that two year olds require a great deal of attention as well. Jake just wants a play mate. He's into cars and trucks and loves to play in his room. He loves an audience and constantly calls me to come and watch him play or dance or whatever he's doing, he wants me there.
So, how do I find that perfect balance? I'm not sure. I'm still discovering what parenthood is like with more than one child. Each day brings new discoveries. I think after this point I could add five more children and life would always be this hectic. Two is way more demanding than one and life is busy. I mean real busy.
BUT-I would not trade this life for anything. Life is hard and the balance isn't there, but it will be eventually. Right?
*Picture taken this weekend at the Hunter's Extravaganza held downtown. Just another example of not having "me time". Ha ha!
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Balance
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First off, what adorable little boys you have! I just love Jake's blond hair-how beautiful! (Can you tell I always wanted to be a blond:)
As you know, I am struggling with this issue too. My two-year old also needs a lot of attention, and so there is no jealousy, I try to give it to him a lot. Whenever Ryan is taking a snooze, I'm playing with Steve. You can imagine I am beyond tired at the end of the day! What I have learned in the last 12 weeks though, is that it never will be exactly even. We can't be perfect, and someone is bound to get upset. So I take a little me time. At least 1 hour when I can. This is usually when my hubby is home. He puts the older kid to bed, so I can get a little time to myself.
Having 'me' time was certainly a lot easier with one, but you need to have it! When I wasn't getting any, I started to lose it; get angry at the boys mainly my oldest. And every time I would get angry, his behavior would get worse, and things spiraled. So for him too, I now take some time to myself. Also, there is no kids' music in the car, and frequently I turn the radio on my station for a small 'break.' I feel like a meany, but it does help.
Well, my me time is coming to a close. It will get easier. Remember that the older our kids get the easier they become. We are nearing the magical time of 3 months, and I swear things are getting easier. It's still easier to stay at home, but I'm getting there and you will too.
Bev
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